Intricately woven within the dynamic of urban dating is a peculiar and often times unforgiving little Game. All African-Americans are aware of this Game and the vast majority of us apply its concepts to virtually everything that we pursue, including one another. But, how…
I have been told that when a man reaches his forties, his body will no longer allow him to have multiple partners without raising some kind of resistance. If this is a truism then we need to understand the concept behind the idea. I…
I met a woman a few years ago. During our phone conversation she said that she had recently met a man who told her, rather mysteriously, that he wanted to know where her mind was at. She expressed suspicion about this term and asked…
A few years ago I met a young woman through an online dating service. During our phone conversation she led me to believe that she was hiding an experience that would say more about her then what she was telling me. Eager to unearth…
When a man penetrates you he is not just penetrating your womb, he is also penetrating a vast psychological universe filled with hopes, dreams, fears and rage. This inner relationship universe was not designed for transient encounters with multiple partners. It was designed to…
There are few experiences that can compare to embarking on your life’s journey with someone you love and trust. But for many women that ship has either already sailed or is still under construction. If this is where you’re at on your relationship journey then Spring…
High atop mountains in makeshift mansions the newly crowned Gangsta Gods of the hip-hop nation had set up residence. As their video and audio sermons of illicit wealth and doom streamed down to the hoods of America, black males on the ground quietly prepared…
Gangsta rap’s ultimate witchery is not its ability to spin the viewpoint of the hood lumpenproletariat into commercial gold, but rather, its furtive contribution to the decay of urban dating and marriage. If you don’t believe that this subgenre of hip-hop is a major…
For many African Americans the urban dating dynamic during the 1980’s was about harsh realities and drastic change. This evolution, if you will, which continues to influence how we date, entered the decade like a lamb but went out like a roaring lion. By…
The sound of black voices laughing and shouting amidst the music and tinkling of glasses fill urban nightclubs with a heightened sense of blackness. On the surface it seems as though everyone is simply chillin’ in their respective clicks while talking and getting their…
A stronger, wiser you have awakened and it feels good to begin dating again. Don’t punish this person for what others did to you in prior relationships but do learn from past mistakes and try not to repeat them. Right now you possess the keys to…
Congratulations!Your Summer season is very special. The fact that you and your partner have made it to this stage of your relationship cycle proves that you approve of his mindset, value each other’s time, are able to communicate and are willing to please each other sexually.…
