Rihanna and Chris Brown: Don’t F–king Understand It!

While fans remain bewildered as to the current status of Chris Brown and Rihanna’s relationship, Rihanna herself seems even more perplexed when it comes to understanding the concept of love. At a recent concert at L.A.’s Staple Center the young star was quoted as saying, “How many of you are in love? How many of you hate love? How many of you don’t f–king understand it? I’m in that group.”

Rihanna, you are definitely onto something.

Ladies forget about love for a minute. Love is an obscure house that resides on the fringe of your Inner Relationship Universe. I liken it to a holding tank for the subconscious you. Many things must happen before you are caste there. And once you are there, many more things must occur before you can be released. So if you really want an accurate perspective on what love is you must first understand the entire psychological process by which you are sent to this intoxicating yet powerless house. And for that answer we must begin in the darkest, most foreboding area of your mind where lies the most troublesome yet important house to inhabit your Inner Relationship Universe. I am referring to your house of Fear. Rihanna, this is for you.

What the female mind needs, more so than love, is psychological harmony. This is what fuels self-esteem and allows positive energy to flow seamlessly throughout the realm. But when traumatic life experiences happen—this can be from prior relationships or childhood experiences—harmony is disrupted, which, in turn, causes self-esteem levels to tank as positive energy is replaced by negative energy. In such a predicament the mind does what it can to create a climate for harmony to be restored and for you to deal with these subconscious issues on a conscious level. What typically happens is your subconscious creates a new Mindset or outlook to help you deal with your perceived reality. A matching façade is also created to prevent you from looking as though you want to kill someone. The goal is to attract members of the opposite sex who can hopefully say or do something that will get the self-esteem levels back up to where they should be. On a conscious level this new, fake you appears fine to the people who interact with you on a daily basis. But, subconsciously, the real you is reliving these horrible life memories over and over again.

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Several types of connections; spiritual, mental or otherwise, can fuel enough positive energy and self-esteem to make you think that you are in love. But, if traumatic life or relationship memories have not been addressed, then the connection has not reached the real you, which means you are truly “in” love. Therefore, your subconscious will not bind you to your house of Love for this individual and will still allow attempts at deeper connections to be made. So in order for a man to make you fall “in” love with him (and only him) he must first find the real you. This requires finding a way inside your house of Fear, defeating these negative memories and replacing them with positive ones. This can only be accomplished with strong conversation. Most men lack the confidence or view to tame this dark house with their words alone. But for those who can, the prize is the keys to your Inner Sanctum. This is how it works.

When a man’s thoughts and viewpoints are powerful enough to quail negative childhood or relationship memories, and make sense of the chaos in your current life, positive energy begins resonating throughout the realm on a scale that forces negative memories into hiding. This clears the way for him to connect to the real you. Your subconscious quickly picks up on this and tags the source of the positive energy. His image and viewpoints are then sent to your house of Fear, changing it back into what it was before negative life experiences desecrated it. Your house of fear now becomes a house of Reverence for this man.

Now that harmony has been restored and the real you found, your subconscious quickly changes back into a monogamous realm to prevent rival energy from filtering in and disrupting harmony again. Not even you can be allowed to disrupt the flow of harmony in your own mind. So you are locked inside your house of Love, which becomes your Shangri-La prison, while the façade that was put in place to attract attention is taken down. Your subconscious does not comprehend liars, playas and cheats. Therefore, it assumes that the source of the positive energy is genuine and trustworthy. So, in order to keep him pumping positive energy into the realm, the keys that control everything he may crave from you becomes his.

So how did Rihanna fall in love with Chris Brown? Well, again, it takes a man with a strong view and powerful conversational skills to conquer the demons that reside inside a female’s house of Fear. And from observing Chris Brown over the years my spirit of discernment tells me that he is a bona fide Level 3 Mindset. Level 3’s represent the heart of the male mind and receive their energy from the chaos of the universe. They are confident, strong-minded and brave, and have very powerful principles and viewpoints. This allows them to see beyond the facades of what females look like, do for a living or say, and into the dark inner world where the real them exists.

Chris Brown and Rihanna have no doubt spent countless nights discussing her early life as it played out on the tiny island of Barbados when she was still Robyn Rihanna Fenty. And the more Robyn talked, the more she opened up (her Veil of Secrets), and most importantly, the more Chris Brown made sense of her dark world with his conversation (and perhaps his own dark life stories), the more of him seeped into her mind until he eventually conquered her house of Fear, changing it into a house of Reverence for him and only him. And that’s how she fell in love with him.

Okay, cell phone goes flying, followed abruptly by an elbow to the lips. The young starlet says, “Ouch” and the relationship is over for good, right?  As many of you ladies already know, in the real world it’s not that simple. Once a man gets that deep inside your mind, the only way to get him out permanently is for another man with a comparable or stronger view and conversation to oust him. The problem for Rihanna is that most men in the entertainment field are unable to produce conversation strong enough to usurp where Chris Brown is at in her mind. So when these lessor Hollywood mindsets fall short, Rihanna’s subconscious, desperate to get the positive energy flowin’ again, resurrects positive memories of the most recent man who was able to restore harmony, which is apparently Chris Brown. And this is what compels her to go back to him.

So, as it turns out, love is easy to f–king understand. It’s the last remnants of a desecrated shrine, an impractical idea made famous by those who want to make a profit off of you having sex for free. The problem is that if you continue to pursue this monstrous concept without reaping lifelong results, your mind can become a way station for those who will do anything to bare the keys that control access to your sex, pain, fear and dedication. Don’t forget ladies that you are the most powerful beings on this earth! There are more practical ways to enjoy a lifelong existence with the right man without giving up control of these priceless commodities. But that necessitates understanding the darker, more powerful houses to inhabit your Inner Relationship Universe. We’ll save that understanding for another post. Until then, stay positive!