Kim and Kanye Tying the Knot? Seriously?

Life couldn’t be any better for celebrity couple Kim Kardashian and Kanye West. Not only are photos of their young daughter, North West, finally circulating, but published reports are also saying that the celebrity couple is secretly planning to wed.

According to multiple sources, the rapper and reality TV star are quietly discussing marriage. And according to at least one published report, Kanye appears to be more excited about the thought of tying the knot than Kim.

Now I’m certainly not implying that Kim is a gold digger but we all know for a fact that Kanye ain’t no broke N@gga (I just had to). And when you consider the fact that rappers tend to do a lot better at picking wives than rich and famous black men in other high-profile professions—I mean how many times do you see hardcore rappers sittin’ in divorce court—you would think that Kanye would have made a better choice. Isn’t this the same chick that launched a new wedding fragrance and retail store right around the time of her televised marriage to previous bow, Kris Humphries, leading several news outlets to conclude that the marriage was a publicity stunt? And now Kanye wants to be next? Is he crazy? Well, not necessarily.

The female Inner Relationship Universe is a very powerful and sacred realm, and will only surrender to a man who has a view and conversation strong enough to tame it. And for the handful of men who can accomplish this great feat, the prize is a woman’s total dedication. This dark realm is also very finicky, and very unforgiving to those who attempt to tame it and fall short. And the difference between success and failure can be worlds apart.

Personally, I think Kim’s ultimate desire is to settle down and be the best wife and mother she can be. But her relationship journey up until this point has taken her down some very unforgiving paths that often befall young women who are trusting and idealistic. Her first marriage back in 2000 to music producer Damon Thomas ended three years after the two eloped (Kim has claimed that the break up was due to physical and emotional abuse on his part but who can say). That same year she began dating singer Ray J, and shortly thereafter, was ass up in a sex video. And even though Kim ended up parlaying the tape into a very successful career, I don’t believe that’s why Ray J videotaped her. Then, back in 2007 she began dating pro football player Reggie Bush, who apparently promised to marry Kim if he won the Super Bowl. Well, guess what folks? In 2010 he did but they didn’t.

I think Kim’s mind hardened after all of that, and as a result, she may have decided to take a break from black men. And trust me; she would not be the first or the last woman to feel that way about men of a certain race or ethnicity when relationships with them continually go awry. I once worked with a female (a white girl) who said that her preference was Italian men. But, according to her, every time she dated one it turned out bad. As a result, she vowed never to date one again (at least until one was hired where we worked).

This, in my opinion, is why Kim went with Kris Humphries, a kinder, gentler version of what she prefers (Kris is bi-racial). But Kris was born and raised in Minnesota, the land of a thousand lakes, and very few urban areas where the philosophy of the strong-minded can be learned. And I highly doubt that Kris inherited any of this mentality from his parents because who in their right mind with any Game would move to Minnesota?

This, and other factors, convinces me that Kris is a Level 1 mindset. And while a Level 1 can certainly be just as strong, intelligent, athletic and attractive as a stronger mindset, or even more so, where they are lacking is when it comes to confidence and a view, especially with women. And this reflects in their conversation, which tends to be all about what they do, what they’ve learned and superficial topics. But what their conversation is unable to do is peel away a woman’s façade and find the real her. This is how deep mental connections are formed. And I truly believe that at this stage of Kim’s relationship journey, with all of its twists and turns, she really needs that.

Once a now seasoned Kim realized this, I believe she concluded that the experiment had failed and decided to do to Kris Humphries what others (in her mind) have attempted to do to her, which is establish a relationship for personal gain. Welcome to the Game hun!

So what does all of this have to do with Kanye West? Absolutely nothing. That’s because Kanye is a Level 3 mindset which is a world apart from a Level 1. Level 3’s have confidence and a very powerful view that needs to be expressed (which may explain why Kanye chose the rap Game as a profession). These mindsets know how to peel away a woman’s façade and find the real her and establish that deep connection that so many women crave.

This is why I believe that Kim and Kanye’s marriage will last for a minute and why Kim is not planning on breaking Kanye off somethin’ proper like. However, Level 3 mindsets are not monogamous by nature, especially when they are young.  So if Kanye decides to stray and gets caught then that changes everything. I will keep you posted.