Spring Fling…
If you fear that your man is cheating or otherwise disrespecting you in the relationship then chances are your stress level is high and your Avatars are already bubbling towards the surface. Try not to dwell on the unknown. I know it’s easy to say but all this will do is increase their strength. If they get too powerful they may take over your will and cause you to act out of character. Instead, draw upon their energy to get answers. If you are right but start pointing fingers without proof then all you’re doing is letting your man know that he must cover his tracks. It takes discipline to catch a cheater.
Check for changes in the behavior of your man’s friends, family and co-workers, especially the females. Even people who work in the immediate vicinity of his job or favorite hang out spot, such as security guards, bar tenders, maintenance workers and parking lot attendants may have front row seats to whatever he may be doing when you’re not around. If any of these people have observed him with another female or otherwise disrespecting you in the relationship then some of them are going to start acting differently towards you (especially anyone who is coveting the relationship). Usually those who were friendly towards you will begin acting distant, while those who couldn’t look you in the eyes or speak may suddenly start acting friendly. Someone may be eager to talk.
Now would also be a good time to pop up unannounced at some of these places. If you haven’t done so in the past then chances are your man’s gotten comfortable with the assumption that you won’t. You may only have one chance at a smoking gun so use whatever intel you’ve gathered from the people around him to pick an optimal time to catch him acting inappropriately. If, for example, the security guard at his job who never spoke is suddenly acting friendly when he sees you then pop up during his shift when he and your man’s paths usually intersect. He may be seeing something that your man is doing that makes him think that you will become available once you find out. Just make sure you can handle whatever you may uncover.
If your man gets upset or uncomfortable when he sees you then have him explain why. Don’t fall victim to the Trust Card (you need to start learning how to trust me!) or any other tactic that brushes off your concerns as a figment of your imagination. Let him know that you need more from him than that! Rely on Tulsa’s instincts to determine if he is being transparent or hiding something.
If it turns out that your man did not do anything that violated the relationship, then it will be left up to you to right the ship. Often times a pleasure cruise to your island oasis of Hawaii is the perfect start. You may also need to determine if you have trust issues. If you’ve had a traumatic life experience that may be compromising your ability to trust then now would be a good time to open up your Veil of Secrets and discuss it with him. This can actually bring the two of you closer together.
Often times the smoking gun never appears. Habitual cheaters are good at covering their tracks and leaving you with the difficult choice of either staying in the relationship until you’re finally dumped or walking away without closure. Either call can be tough, especially if you are married, in love or have children together. Just remember, when you pull the trigger and do the dumping you are more empowered to deal with your Winter season then you would be had you waited for your man to caste you there. Good luck!
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Lifted…out of Summers money
Left with
Space between Seasons
The Leaves are
Fal (1) ing
The Ground is
Lifted (Expansion)
Al(!)
I AM
is
Left with is (1)
my Friends
A Lover
And Over and Over
I AM
Left with
ME…
With UNION
The Trial is Hard
because (NO) Thing
is WORTHY
that is
EASY.
Lisa…if U R still reading and 4 any(1) else that is/
Resume of my Relationship History:
12 yr marriage, 13 yr relationship, 20 yrs of age (he was age 21) @ time of marriage; 2 children, 1st child 2 yrs after marriage. His 1st penetration of another woman (that I know of) when pregnant w/2nd child (5 yrs married). I only know suredly because he admitted it.
>>>>We can only know by
FALLING
because N Spring we never (ever) fought,
N (EVER) had a disagreement
NOT HEAL (THY)
Immediatly after we were married our Limbido
Became diluted
Our passion deflATED
It ate @ us
Disillusioned as we were
We fell b(4) we even Sprung!
To Al(1) Seasons
W/o (1)
we will n (ever)
Know the Other
LET IT BE…Know the Season
N which we (N)
R U
Falling
2 b
rebirthed?
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What is
YOUR
F
A
l(1)
consisting of?
As a follow up to my initial comment, I forgot to mention that he was satisfied and I was not- I felt like I was left….just left.
Left 2 b WHAT>?
Something you are or something
you xpected
(OR)
someone else (that) you’re xpected to be?
Why did he leave you?
Why were u just left?
With YOURSELF?It is YOU, YOURE left WiTH(in)
In the END!
So for anyone who is out there reading, maybe you can chime in. I have recently started a relationship with a man that I enjoy spending time with. It is quite a new relationship. Having been hurt before and 2 years out of a relationship, believing that I was healed and ready to begin a new romance.
On our first encounter we had sex. This caught me by surprise and has caused some bad feelings to resurface. Now my man wants me to perform other sexual acts and I am having a difficult time because of our initial sexual encounter. I feel like we have skipped from Spring straight into Fall- with no pass go & collect $ 200. How should I address these feelings that I am having of feeling like a sex test subject or as in the mastering the big 3 should I quit and potentially miss out on a good thing.
Please help, severely confused!
I respomded to your latter comment…but this appears to be the initial comment to b responded to. This sounds (appears) 2b a a completely unheathly Encounter.
All this human you were looking 4 LOVE in resulted no more than the result of more confusion….
This HUMAN will only respect you more than by the result of how you respect yourself.
U R NOT ( I AM NOT) a test subject of SEX!
SEXUAL encounters should do more no more than knowing your OWN beauty.
Who u r N (SIDE)
B Confident, know WHO R with…thoserelationshipsthatEMPOWER..YOU!
ISf it it NOT a heathly relationship, friend,OR family, or trying to make FOE better? If it is FFOE…displace them..they have NO GOOD in URnLIFE!
Take Master Control Panel SEverely CONFUSED…YOU R THE MASTER OF UR OWN MIND!
Sounds like you’re in the right season allright
My relationship seems as though it is in real trouble I have read the different seasons and I really don’t what season I may fall under. I have been with the guy for many years and he has cheated on me and he seems to think it is okay to do, and I will forget about his unfaithful deeds. He does not respect me at all and somewhat abusive in the way he talks and acts towards me and at this point I do not thinks he cares. He will say to me that it is me I am insecure. WHAT IS THAT!!!
I must admit that it is very hard for me to trust him, because of his pass behavior. I truly think he thinks I am not aware of what he does maybe it is because I don’t saying anything to him. I truly understand when someone say I am tired, I get it.
So now that you know what is going on with my relationship what do you think about my seasons or is there anything that I can do?
Thank you,
Sincerely Lost