Mastering the Big Three…
Every human being has been given a path to walk on that optimizes their safety as they attempt to acquire what they need and crave on this planet. And as long as you stay true to yours, not only will you be in harmony…
Where’s Your Mind At?
I met a woman a few years ago. During our phone conversation she said that she had recently met a man who told her, rather mysteriously, that he wanted to know where her mind was at. She expressed suspicion about this term and asked…
Your Veil of Secrets
A few years ago I met a young woman through an online dating service. During our phone conversation she led me to believe that she was hiding an experience that would say more about her then what she was telling me. Eager to unearth…
Utilizing Your House of Scorn
When a man penetrates you he is not just penetrating your womb, he is also penetrating a vast psychological universe filled with hopes, dreams, fears and rage. This inner relationship universe was not designed for transient encounters with multiple partners. It was designed to…
Spring Fling…
There are few experiences that can compare to embarking on your life’s journey with someone you love and trust. But for many women that ship has either already sailed or is still under construction. If this is where you’re at on your relationship journey then Spring…
And Now They Hunt: The Black Female’s Evolution in the Game
High atop mountains in makeshift mansions the newly crowned Gangsta Gods of the hip-hop nation had set up residence. As their video and audio sermons of illicit wealth and doom streamed down to the hoods of America, black males on the ground quietly prepared…
Birth of an Urban Relationship War
Gangsta rap’s ultimate witchery is not its ability to spin the viewpoint of the hood lumpenproletariat into commercial gold, but rather, its furtive contribution to the decay of urban dating and marriage. If you don’t believe that this subgenre of hip-hop is a major…
The Secret Relationship Between Interracial Dating and the Game
For many African Americans the urban dating dynamic during the 1980’s was about harsh realities and drastic change. This evolution, if you will, which continues to influence how we date, entered the decade like a lamb but went out like a roaring lion. By…
Urban Nightclubs: Ground Zero For War
The sound of black voices laughing and shouting amidst the music and tinkling of glasses fill urban nightclubs with a heightened sense of blackness. On the surface it seems as though everyone is simply chillin’ in their respective clicks while talking and getting their…